Best and Worst things to say to someone in Grief

The 10 best and worst things to say to someone in grief.

THE WORSE THINGS TO SAY TO SOMEONE IN GRIEF

1. At least he lived a long life, many people die young.
2. He is in a better place.
3. He brought this on himself.
4. There is a reason for everything.
5. Aren't you over him yet, he has been dead for a while now.
6. You can still have another child.
7. He was such a good person, God wanted him to be with him.
8. I know how you feel.
9. He did what he came here to do, and it was his time to go.
10. Be strong.

THE BEST THINGS TO SAY TO SOMEONE IN GRIEF

1. I am so sorry for your loss.
2. I wish I had the right words, just know I care.
3. I don't know how you feel, but I am here if I can help in any way.
4. You and your loved ones will be in my thoughts and prayers.
5. My favorite memory of your loved one is...
6. I am always just a phone call away.
7. Give a hug instead of saying something.
8. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you.
9. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything.
10. Saying nothing, just be with the person.

I don't know who wrote this, but I like it. My favorite Best is #5.
Linda

Number one is my number one bug-bare, no matter what age a human or pet reaches, you will never realy be prepared for it. Many people tried to say that about my 15 year old dog "she was a good age" if a life is taken from you suddenly, you are never prepared, whether they be young or old.

Thank you Linda, a great post, and I can relate to the best things to say.

As a former hospice volunteer, thank you for pointing these pearls of wisdom out to the well meaning public.
Peace,
WhiteShaman

it's hard
sometimes stumbbling
over the words and emotions
or just wanting to be there paying a respect
it's hard
if i think that I can't handle a funeral I don't go
it is much more important to those who do decide to attend
to me it's a much more private time than celebrating a wedding...
where more folks will join in on....

we recently lost a friend and
his parents are still grieving
more than just an acqaintance...
it will be there forever for all of us
just more for the ones closest....

it is an opportunity to show who cared... or cares....


Charlie, I'm thinking of you
Could I have helped the situation more....
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